A soldier who falls in love with a prisoner of war has no right to have an intimate relationship with her without having a testing time of a month. The Torah doesn't allow him to follow his immediate impulses because they may create important problems later on.

A soldier's impulse has to be submitted to the rules of the Torah. He has to let her cry for a month in his house so that he can get to know her closer before getting married. He will have to learn not to be driven by his immediate impulses, and wait a whole month to be able to come to her. It is forbidden to touch her before marriage!

The one who gives free rein to his sexual desires acts like a beast, not as a man. Strong men are those who know how to control their minds and emotions and channel them within the parameters set by the Torah. A person enslaved by his impulses is inconstant, unfaithful, and dangerous. A person who superimposes the divine principles over his emotions will be constant, f aithful, and loving. A society in which the citizens haven't learned self-control from their parents becomes poor, corrupt, and violent. A society guided by the principles of the Torah becomes rich, free, and safe.